Adjusting your child’s behavior after years of spoiling is not easy. It is best to avoid spoiling your child before things get out of hand. Your children will have better manners and be more socially conscious if you do not spoil them. They will also become happier adults who do not take everything for granted. The following tips will help you establish some healthy ground rules and avoid promoting selfish behaviors.
You should never give a begging child what they want. This might seem like a simple rule but a lot of parents give up. Once your child understands they can get what they want by begging, you will have a hard time getting them to stop using this behavior.
You need to establish some clear limits early in the life of your child. Your child should understand that there is no wiggle room and will respond appropriately when you set some ground rules.
Once you establish some ground rules, do not make any compromises. Let’s take a simple example. Your child asks for a cookie and give you them one but warn them not to come back for more. It is true that a second cookie would not be a big deal but you need to be firm once you stated your position.
Your child will be happier if you establish a mentality that fosters hard work in exchange for a reward. Studies have shown that children are better at coping with frustration if they are taught how to handle homework and other responsibilities such as chores. You should start early, for instance by giving your toddler some very easy tasks around the house and they show throw temper tantrums less often.
Give your child the possibility to convince you. Let’s suppose your child wants to watch TV. If your child tells you that she has cleaned her room or completed her chores, check to make sure she is telling the truth. You can then reward the good behavior by letting her watch TV.
If you want to raise an unspoiled child, you should not worry about disappointing them. Learning to deal with disappointment is an important life lesson. This will help your child deal with stress and anxiety as they age.
Children become spoiled if they easily get what they want. Psychologists believe that teaching children to work for what they want, whether it is homework or chores, will help them adopt good behaviors that will help them become successful adults.